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change: friend or foe?

this morning, a friend and i hit on this idea of change. turns out, many people have this love-hate relationship with change.

undeniable, change has robbed us of many important things. naiivety, innocence, love, friendship, or perhaps, even some of our family.

i have only too many of these experiencea. loved ones leave me because "they've changed". i start being critical because "i've changed". i stopped loving someone because "he's changed".

you see. change has only brought about pain and suffering. people change due to circumstances. say, X has always been a close friend to Y. both shared many camaradaries and confide in each other alot. but when Y has a new girlfriend, X will turn to someone else to confide in, because Y has "changed". so you see, the word CHANGE here, has brought about, perhaps, a new chapter in a person's life, and forces on to adapt to this new chapter, thus changing that person as well.

lets go back to our story. what if Y breaks up with his girlfriend one day? wouldn't Y "change back" to who he once was, and be good friends with X again? then, what has change brought about this time? something positive to X i believe.

oh well. i guess all people are practical. oh so very practical. we change for us to fit the environment, even if it makes us feel like a piece of crap, we still do.

its apparent in the previous example that Y has only gone back to X, because he has no one else to lean on anymore. this just sucks.

perhaps change is part of our instinct that our oh-so-great ancestors have passed down to us. maybe its some weird code in our genes to ensure our survival. or perhaps we've just picked up these skills as we grow up in this dog-eat-dog world. The Fittest Survives. perhaps, its just some form of harsh training on our innocent souls to keep us "fit".

with change, comes development. and with development, comes more destruction than conservation.

should we have never changed, all of you here would still be living in the Stone-Age, hunting wild boars and god-knows-what, instead of comfortably sitting down in front of your computer, reading my blog. should we have never changed, we'd all die early due to unforeseen circumstances, and not still breathing this minute. should we have never changed, we'd have never known about how the other side of the world looks like.

YET.

should we have never changed, many other trees would still be swaying with the winds and not mercilessly cut down by us humans, for our own selfish use. should we have never changed, the polar bears would not be put on the list of 3rd level ( i think) endangered species, because of the melting ice bergs. should we have never change, people wouldnt be suffering from so many more natural disasters, as compared to the ancient times.

this brings me back to my earlier statement, "with change comes development". you see CONSERVATION going on, do u? people has changed, once again, due to unforseen circumstances, to ensure their survival. we know that, should one day the icebergs melt, we'd all die in droughts and floods. we know that, should one day, all the trees are gone and the land is left barren, it'd be near our dooms day. we know that, should we not start to conserve the environment, we'd suffer from even more natural disasters due to come. we develop once more, to ensure our survival.

so no doubt, change has robbed us of many things which were wonderful and precious to us. but change has help to prolong what's most important to us, our survival.

give and take, they say. sometimes, we need to give up what means so much to us, in order to receive what is most important to us. perhaps, this is a rule Life has set.