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defiance.

thoughout today, they've attached the "defiance" tag to their mouths. defiance defiance defiance. whether is it you've folded your skirt or pulled down your socks to the ankle. its all defiance.

as in dictionary.com, defiance means a daring or bold resistance to authority or to any opposing force.

let me quote an example. A was walking down the stairs when she decided to fold her skirt. apparently, the long skirt had made her feel uncomfortable. so she decided to shorten the length by a little, to half the knee cap [that's the general guideline for skirts]. unfortunately for her, she was caught 10minutes later. now, when she was caught, the first thing she heard was "this is an act of defiance". apparently A was told that it was wrong to fold her skirt in the first place.

now now, tell me. is it wrong to resist to motions that make you feel uncomfortable? or rather, is it right to go along doing what you were told to even if you dont feel good about it?

if i remember clearly, we were always told to "do what you think is right". what if A thinks that its okay to fold her skirt, as long as it sticks to the rules? if she still being defiant?

then think again, will telling A to unfold her skirt then permanently solve the problem of her folding her skirt? i truly doubt so.

now, what they are dealing with here is just the surface of the problem. they are nowhere near the root. the idea behind getting attire right is DISCIPLINE. say haywired discipline is the root of all problems and part of the surface problems would include inproper attire, bringing of phones to school etc, would getting attire right throughouly sort out discipline? i think we all know the answer very well.

its comparable to the plucking out of white hair. as long as the root of the white hair isn't treated by some specialised hair specialist, white hair would still continue to grow despite various attempts to get rid of it. in fact, from 1 strand per pore, it may increase to 3 or 4 strands per pore. that is bad.

similarly, attempts of trying to get the attire right would only cause destruction to the community there. problems it would incur would include disrespect, even more defiance, fear and even worse, hatred.

let me quote some famous person. "its not when you reach your destination, but how you get there".

let us now apply this to the current situation. i'd like to ask, would you rather hurry get all the attire right and earn nothing but disrespect and hatred from all around you? or would you rather try to gain the respect from all around you and naturally get the surface problem sorted out? its effectiveness we are talking about here.

"you reap what you sow". you sow hatred, you reap hatred. you sow disrespect, you reap disrespect.you sow fear, you reap fear. you sow misunderstandings, similarly, its misunderstandings you will reap.

this method you are using may work for the older generation, but no longer for generation Y. even textbook syllabus are improved on and edited with time. surely there are other ways to get discipline sorted out.

you speak bird language to birds, fish language to fishes, snake language to snakes. the same concept applies here. you always go "dont you understand simple english?". no doubt, we DO understand simple english. but why is that we never comply? because we never listen? because we cant be bothered to? well, i guess i cant answer that question for you too. maybe its because we speak a different language (not as in literally), or maybe its because we feel you dont understand us, which is why we defy your rules. or maybe, we just cant be bothered. perhaps, you'd prefer to think of it as we are nonchalent. but i personally believe that should you try speaking our language, the effects would be more to your liking.

perhaps, its time to think and feel like us.